It’s Just Sex: A new breed of women

Stereotypically men are identified as having the ability to have sex indiscriminately with little more thought put into it other than their own pleasure.  However, more and more women seem to have a clear emotional detachment towards sex.

Once all the men stop jumping up and down and high fiveing each other, take a moment and really think about what this means. While it may look like someone has just opened a new guilt free sex buffet, a shift in social conforms of this kind dramatically changes sexual dynamics.

Historically women have been notorious for placing emotional value on sex and as such the fastest way into a womans pants used to be through her heart and this tendency was a great source of control over women. The act of “making love” gave the man direct access to a woman’s emotional core.

This kind of power allowed men to get away with a lot of crap. A guy could cheat, get caught and then get off the hook by “making love” and re-affirming the connection. Screw up by having sex and then fix it by having more sex. It was a pretty sweet deal!

Now if  you remove the emotional element men lose a great deal of leverage and they’re left to stand on only the quality of their sexual performance. And lets face it, if the sexual playing field was a casino most guys have nickels in a room full of dollar slot machines.

So what happens is that now men have to give more of themselves emotionally up front to gain that missing leverage thereby putting their hearts on the line as well. This also means that where before women would stray when her emotional needs could be met somewhere else now she could stray based on her sexual urges alone. As well without their hearts clouding their judgment and because they’re thinking only of their own immediate physical satisfaction women are more selective and judging men by a whole new set of rules. This new set of rules even further changes the dynamic.

No longer is a woman content to sit at the bar waiting to be approached. Girls are going hunting for a man that meets her sexual criteria. Essentially the line between predator and prey is blurring and when it comes to the hunt men are dropping a notch on the sexual food chain. Most of the time men still think they’re the one doing the hunting, women are that good.

Guys have always fantasized about a non-committal woman; a woman that can just enjoy sex and move on. I don’t think however most men are ready for it. Being so easily replaced on a physical urge, waking up finding that she snuck out in the middle of the night and having your calls avoided is going to take some getting used to for a sex whose pride it so easily bruised.

So now the questions. Is this a social evolution of women trying to conform to what men have said they wanted? In essence, a careful what you wish for scenario. Has the tendency always been there hiding in women and only now is it socially acceptable to act on? Perhaps this the precursory shift back to a matriarchal society where women hold the reins and men are left begging.

Maybe it is just simply, what goes around comes around.