Confriendsing

Over the years I have experienced on many occasions, the confusion amidst guy-to-girl friendships. Is it humanly possible to maintain a healthy, inter-sexual, friendship?

It seems more often than not one half of this co- mingling will inevitably long for something deeper than a bosom buddy.  Can you really blame them?  If you are close enough with someone to call them your best friend, you are most likely sharing some of your more intimate thoughts and feelings with them, not to mention the fact that you probably always have a blast together and can talk about anything and everything. Why wouldn’t they look for something more?  Now, you can be mad that they betrayed your trust by having these feelings, mad that they told you and thus created an uneasiness that complicated what was once so comfortable. But they can’t help how they feel anymore than you can help how you don’t feel. Chances are they already knew you wouldn’t reciprocate. A close confidant once told me “if you have to ask, the answer is no.” Despite this fact, human nature tells us “you never know until you try” and if you were in their shoes, I’m willing to bet…. you would do the same. Who wants to live with the “what if?” If you are really as close as you thought, you should be able to move past this breech in contract.  Instead of throwing salt in the wound, comfort your friend who is no doubt in pain, put a warm cloth over their bruised ego, and work through it. Perhaps a slight hiatus is necessary, but if you allow it, the two of you will mend and grow back closer and stronger.  Personally, I believe that the friendships you have to fight for, can be some of the most enriching experiences and if you can get past this confriendsing confession, chances are you will be a better person for it.

-Ivy Angel